Whenever I try to compare myself to others, I come up short. There will always be someone who is smarter, thinner, funnier, and more compassionate. When I relate, I can see where I’m just another bozo on the bus. I don’t have to be smarter, thinner, funnier or more compassionate. No one is perfect. A therapist once told me that the synonym for perfection is BORING! That gives me permission to be human!
I constantly worried about what people thought, and now I realize that most of the time, people are not thinking about me! Hey, I’m not thinking about them either. That’s the honest truth. I’m self-absorbed by nature.
Spirituality offers the opportunity to rise above that self-absorption and allows me to accept the fact that I am imperfect. Really, isn’t in our imperfections where we can relate to one another? I feel better knowing that my house is no cleaner or dirtier than yours. I’m relieved to know that you also are late for appointments on occasion. Don’t I seem more approachable when you know that I snapped at my sweet husband yesterday? Of course, I apologized later, but hey, I’m human.
Is comparing yourself to others, blocking you from your spiritual experience today? Changing our thinking is not something that occurs over night but perhaps you can start today with the awareness, and making an attempt to relate to others.
- Today, when you catch yourself comparing to someone else, stop! Look for something, anything that you can relate to in that person.
- Do you want things to be perfect? Try not making your bed today. If you are a true ‘perfectionist’, this may be agonizing for you, but it is a segue to imperfection.
- A wonderful book that helped me to let go of trying to be perfect is “The Spirituality of Imperfection” by Ernest Kurtz and Katherine Ketcham. I highly recommend it.