Who are your people?

I was reading an online newsletter today http://www.stonecircleonline.org and paused to ponder. Who are my people? Who are the people that have influenced me and have been my partners on this path to my present person?

Of course, in my early life, family influenced my early morals and convictions. As I sprouted wings and soared on my own, many others along the way made both positive and negative impacts on my direction.

Right or wrong, all those life experiences are part of who I am today. I do not have regrets for the harder lessons, for they’ve contributed to my compassion for others who experience those same challenges. We come out on the other side, eventually.

In my present life, some stand out as models, folks I’d like to emulate. There’s Gloria, who teaches me integrity and stick-to-it-iveness. How I longed to birth the book inside of me that begged to be born, yet I wrote nothing. Then Coach Lorraine suggested that one who wishes to be published must apply a pen to paper. Can you imagine the pride I feel as my second book nears completion?

And there’s my sweet husband, David. He retired four years ago and employs balance in his life. Chores take up no more than one and a half hours a day. He has two ‘fun’ part-time jobs. He sleeps until nine, unless something prevents that. His philosophy of ‘no matter where you go, there you are’, inspires me to stay in the moment, where I used to hurry to be somewhere else, other than where I was.

And who are YOUR people?

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FIFTY IS NIFTY!

Coach Lorraine Edey and I are in the process of creating a new book, “Fifty is Nifty” – How twenty women reinvented their lives after fifty years old.

If you are a women who’s taken a new path, we want to talk to you, for possible inclusion in our book. Perhaps you know of a woman who’s greatly impacted your life by her daring new life-adventure. Or maybe it’s you!

If you are interested or want to tell us about some nifty-fifty woman in your life, please contact me. We want to talk with you!

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NO!

NO!

Why is it so difficult to say, “no?”  We hear, “sure, no problem” coming out of our mouths, when our head is screaming, “NO, NO, NO!!!!”.  What is so hard about saying, “no!”

We don’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings, so we compromise and say yes, when we really mean no.

Here are a few tips on getting off the hook:

  1. “Can I get back to you?” Sometimes we just need to think about the full impact of our decision before giving an answer. If the person insists on an immediate decision, then it’s easier to politely decline.
  2. “I’m sorry, but I’m not available then. “ Even if your datebook is available that night, you may already be overbooked and need a night to chill. It is healthy to plan down-time for yourself.
  3. “I can’t do that, but I can do this.” Perhaps you can do some other task that will benefit the person who’s requesting your help. Again, if the person is insistent, switch to no.
  4. “No, I won’t be able to do it.”

It may feel awkward at first, but with continued effort, saying no becomes easier. If asked for an explanation, remember that you really are not obliged to respond. “It doesn’t fit with my schedule,” is perfectly acceptable.

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